damn this sucks

[heelmanwilm]

Sorry for the downer
I Just got word and still in shock
My 65 year old father in law went to the dr tues for fever and just generally feeling bad. They took some xrays and promptly ambulanced him to university hosp in augusta for what they thought was an intestinal blockage or something. Turns out its a cancerous mass wrapped around his colon and they've also found cancer in his liver, lymph nodes, and lungs. The dr told them they could remove the colon but in all reality its not worth it. Hes freaking eat up with it. Dr advised them to get their affairs in order. Matter of weeks, months at best depending on if he wants to prolong things. He just had a complete physical/prostate exam in july! Heading to augusta ga in about an hour so my bride can be there for her daddy. Smh. Seize the day my friends. They're numbered. Talk to ya in a few days.

 

[tarheel0910]

Sorry for the downer
I Just got word and still in shock
My 65 year old father in law went to the dr tues for fever and just generally feeling bad. They took some xrays and promptly ambulanced him to university hosp in augusta for what they thought was an intestinal blockage or something. Turns out its a cancerous mass wrapped around his colon and they've also found cancer in his liver, lymph nodes, and lungs. The dr told them they could remove the colon but in all reality its not worth it. Hes freaking eat up with it. Dr advised them to get their affairs in order. Matter of weeks, months at best depending on if he wants to prolong things. He just had a complete physical/prostate exam in july! Heading to augusta ga in about an hour so my bride can be there for her daddy. Smh. Seize the day my friends. They're numbered. Talk to ya in a few days.

Damn, hate to hear that. I'm glad your wife is going to have a chance to be there with him. Just goes to show that you need to appreciate every day, because you never know what the future holds.

 

[coolwaterunc]

Hate that for you, brother. You guys are in my prayers.

 

[Blue2010]

Damn man...truly sorry to hear that.

 

[prlyles]

I am so sorry, if there is anything you need let us know.

 

[chick_bleeds_carolina_blue]

So sorry to hear this. Prayers for you all. ❤️

 

[BillyL]

Dayum . . I hate hearing bad news for any of my friends and their loved ones. I'm sorry for Mrs. HeelManWilm, and you both are in my thoughts and prayers . . . I'm not really good at saying the words to help ease someone's pain.

Godspeed to you, my Tar Heel brother, and to your wife's family in this difficult time.

 

[botate]

Prayers for God's blessings for your Father In Law and the family. Sorry to hear this.

 

[JuleZ '02 HEEL]

Sorry to hear and will keep y'all in my thoughts and prayers. Losing a parent sucks, there's no two ways about it. You'll need to step up and do whatever you can to help her through it.

Take full advantage of the time you have left together with him; it's truly the only thing that matters for now. My mom passed unexpectedly, and while I obviously wouldn't want her to have suffered, it's hard having not had a chance to say goodbye.

 

[TarHeelNation11]

I'm so sorry, heelman. 65 is way too young. I'm sure you will, but give your wife a huge benefit of the doubt for the foreseeable future. If she makes you angry, count to 10 and let it slide. Stuff like that. I'm sure she'll be hurting.

I hope that God limits your FIL's pain and comforts him as well as your wife and the rest of the family.

 

[gteeitup]

that's terrible...so sorry for you and your family...thoughts and prayers are with you and yours.

 

[Hark_The_Sound_2010]

Truly sad news. Hoping for the best for you and yours.

My Aunt passed away a little over a year ago from cancer. Similar situation of it being too spread out (lung and brain) by the time they found it to really do anything about it. The silver lining (if there is any) of that, and your situation, is that you're aware and can spend the next however-long with him. As Julez alluded to - I hope when it's my parents time to go, that I have a little bit of warning, not being able to say goodbye would be too tough.

 

[DeanFor President]

So sorry to hear this, there's never a good time for bad news. And you are right......we never know how many tomorrow's we are allotted.

 

[heelbent]

Sorry to hear about your wife's dad my friend. I've been down I-20 to that same hospital for the same reason twice. Once for my best friends dad and once for a family member.

I learned a long time ago how fragile and fleeting life is. The shock of someone being there one second and just...gone...the next is something I have never learned to deal with very well.

I wish peace and comfort for your FIL and pray the Holy Spirit engulfs your wife and in-laws with healing love. Best wishes for you as well young man. ---Jim

 

[Archer2]

Every day is a blessing. God be with you and your family Heelman.

 

[UNC71-00]

Cancer sucks. There are way too many people I know dealing with this.

Thoughts and prayers to you and your family.

 

[ohio tarheels]

Praying and thoughts for you and your wife as well as rest of her family

 

[nctransplant]

Sorry for the downer
I Just got word and still in shock
My 65 year old father in law went to the dr tues for fever and just generally feeling bad. They took some xrays and promptly ambulanced him to university hosp in augusta for what they thought was an intestinal blockage or something. Turns out its a cancerous mass wrapped around his colon and they've also found cancer in his liver, lymph nodes, and lungs. The dr told them they could remove the colon but in all reality its not worth it. Hes freaking eat up with it. Dr advised them to get their affairs in order. Matter of weeks, months at best depending on if he wants to prolong things. He just had a complete physical/prostate exam in july! Heading to augusta ga in about an hour so my bride can be there for her daddy. Smh. Seize the day my friends. They're numbered. Talk to ya in a few days.

Prayers

 

[HookUNC75]

Sorry to hear it, heelman and you have my sympathy. It's going to be a very tough for your bride these next few weeks. Comfort and support her as much as you can.

 

[plm]

So sorry to hear. Make sure to get a second opinion from Duke or chapel hill. There are truly remarkable things happening with cancer immunotherapy treatments. Not sure they are available for your father in laws type of cancer but it's worth looking into.

 

[grillheel]

Thought and prayers are with you.

 

[strummingram]

That was barely 6 months that he had a physical? That's insane.

Stay strong.

 

[coryfly]

Man, that's tough. Hang in there and be there for her, which is stuff you already know. Stay strong.

 

[Heels Noir]

Thoughts and prayers to you and your family, heelmanwilm.

 

[gunslingerdick]

Godspeed.

 

[heelbent]

So sorry to hear. Make sure to get a second opinion from Duke or chapel hill. There are truly remarkable things happening with cancer immunotherapy treatments. Not sure they are available for your father in laws type of cancer but it's worth looking into.

Good advice. I met a guy last night that was told by doctors to get his affairs in order last April. They gave him 6-8 weeks at the outside. His wife took him to Chapel Hill the next morning.

Did I mention I talked with him last night?

 

[Raising Heel]

Sorry to hear this news, heelman. I'll say a prayer for your FIL and family.

 

[UNC '92]

Very sorry to hear this, heelman. Praying for you all.