Do you spank? Were you spanked?

[strummingram]

My younger brother sent me a text about Adrian Peterson possibly being suspended for his admission of how he disciplines his kids. We're Redskins fans, so any bad news is expected.

That got us reminiscing about our childhood and how we were whipped with belts. My mom went at me once when I was about 13, and the buckle part got away from her, it hit me in the nads and I went straight to the floor. It was my first experience with that pain. Once she realized what had happened, she was scared! But, my dad fixed the belt so that wouldn't happen again. I always deserved reprimanding. My dad only used his hand... plenty of force to get the job done and I usually dodged that with just seeing him clench his teeth... a warning sign.

Anyway, most of you are in my age range, or thereabouts- between 35-65'ish. Were you spanked as a kid? Do you spank/whip your children? Apparently it's against the law or something? Beats me.

 

[cletusnow]

You’re compiling a list to turn over to the cops aren’t you?

Yeah I got the belt from time to time.

 

[BillyL]

I got an ass beating once a week whether I deserved it or not . . dad used a belt, mom made me go get a switch and used it on my legs.

I've got 4 kids, and I've never hit any of them . . they say violence teaches violence, I avoided that in my lifetime.

With the exception of having bitch-slapped a couple of dOOk fans in the past, it's how I roll w/ those fvckers . . btw, any of you'se guys have a problem w/ that . . ?

 

[strummingram]

I got an ass beating once a week whether I deserved it or not . . dad used a belt, mom made me go get a switch and used it on my legs.

I've got 4 kids, and I've never hit any of them . . they say violence teaches violence, I avoided that in my lifetime.

With the exception of having bitch-slapped a couple of dOOk fans in the past, it's how I roll w/ those fvckers . . btw, any of you'se guys have a problem w/ that . . ?

Whether you needed one or not??? It sounds like when my dad used to get castor oil every weekend.

 

[strummingram]

My father's father used to beat him mercilessly. But he was also a raging alcoholic. My dad never hit me when he was drunk. But he would keep me up until 3 in the morning talking about crap that I had no idea how to respond.


My maternal grandfather was the kind of presence that you would rather have Satan jump up out of the ground than to see him angry. He was never angry, but that was the presence he had. You just had this Instinct that if he got angry it was going to be worse for you than anything you could imagine. He commanded respect and it was almost effortless in a way. The last thing you would ever want would be to disappoint him.

 

[nctransplant]

Yes and yes

 

[strummingram]

I always assumed that parents could spank their own children

 

[tarheel0910]

I always assumed that parents could spank their own children

They can legally, but it's taboo morally. I suppose it always has been, but people used to let you raise your own kids without telling you what should be done.

 

[cletusnow]

I prefer verbal abuse over physical.

 

[Grayhead]

But he would keep me up until 3 in the morning talking about crap that I had no idea how to respond

Apple doesn't fall far from the tree



Yes I was whipped. I have my kids and step kids as well. Not very often, but when needed. I usually went in the other room to wipe the tears away when I had to spank my kids.


Bill Engvall had a funny clip about ADHD. Said he only had it for a few minutes (was telling of his parents spanking him)

 

[strummingram]

Apple doesn't fall far from the tree

I haven't been drunk since I was 21. And he would talk to me about Vietnam and things that I had no way to correlate.

 

[tarheel0910]

I haven't been drunk since I was 21. And he would talk to me about Vietnam and things that I had no way to correlate.

You mean the war in Viet- ****ing-nam?

 

[strummingram]

You mean the war in Viet- ****ing-nam?

That's all I have to say about that.

My dad got pretty messed up in the head from that experience, plus he got agent orange exposure. But it was also in his genetics the lack the ability to metabolize ethanol efficiently.

I have to say that I haven't seen people spanking children very much that I can remember in the last 20 25 years

 

[strummingram]

I don't regret or feel any animosity toward my parents for spanking/whipping me at all. It's kind of funny because my mother was never spanked as a child and she did the most whipping on me and my brother for sure. I was always one to to talk back. My dad gave me a whipping for asking why.

 

[Grayhead]

I haven't been drunk since I was 21. And he would talk to me about Vietnam and things that I had no way to correlate.

I taking a shot at the talking about crap and not knowing how to respond on this board . No disrespect to your dad and his service.

 

[NoleSoup4U]

I haven't been drunk since I was 21. And he would talk to me about Vietnam and things that I had no way to correlate.

Was his name Walter Sobchak?

I was spanked, but not all that often. I was a pretty good kid overall. What the hell happened to me?

 

[strummingram]

Was his name Walter Sobchak?

I was spanked, but not all that often. I was a pretty good kid overall. What the hell happened to me?

 

[toophly1124]

I was spanked a lot growing up. Not as much as my older bros before me but still got mine. I honestly think my dad whipping my ass and keeping me on the straight and narrow has kept me out of jail. Sure I party and curse but I know what lines not to cross and I know to respect my elders and law enforcement. I wouldn’t want to have been brought up any other way.

 

[BillyL]

Not to distract from this thread, but, Stormy says that 45(Spanky) loves the spankalicious . .

 

[uncboy10]

I was spanked a few times. My dad was my best friend though, so he never really had to get physical to command respect from me. I was pretty well behaved until he passed away.

I don’t have a problem with parents spanking their kids when they need it. Generally speaking though, I think there is usually a better way to get the point across.

 

[BillyL]

Please spank me . . pullease.

 

[sctarheel30]

Rarely spanked but when I was boy it left a lasting impression. Mostly with a switch that I had to go and pick on my bare legs too. It didn’t just stop with my parents sometimes my aunts felt the need to spank me. Da** that still hurts.

 

[dadika13]

Mom did. Dad didn’t have to, he was one of those who terrified you without even touching you if he was pissed.

I don’t have kids but will spank them, best way to teach them and not have them be pussy soft like most millennialis.

I’m with @tarheel0910, let parents raise kids how they like as long as they aren’t abusing or neglicting the kid in a way that effects their health.

 

[Grayhead]

I was also spanked in school all the way thru high school.

I remember once in middle school, someone did something and the teacher was looking for who did it. No one would admit to it. She lined the whole class at the chalk board and blistered everyone in the class. It was worth it to see those goody goody girls who could do no wrong get beat for the only time in their life.

 

[prlyles]

It was worth it to see those goody goody girls who could do no wrong get beat for the only time in their life.

Wow, that left an impression on you didn't it.....

 

[heelmanwilm]

My 17 y/o mom left my bio dad when i was 3. We lived with my grandparents who were staunch old school southern baptists who didnt spare the rod one bit. My grandma had a horrible temper and had lots of hard feelings for my mom who had run away to marry my bio dad. One day she evidently lost her shit and switched me for spilling something and in the process i fell down the stairs and gashed my head. Still have the scar. Dont remember it but we packed up and left that night from the er according to my mom to stay with her sister. Mom never laid a hand on me afterwards and neither did my step dad. Never touched my kids in anger either.

 

[nctransplant]

My Mom never, ever spanked me while she was mad. But if she promised me one I got it, she never broke that promise. She might tell me at 7a.m. I was going to get it and sometime before bedtime I got it. The anticipation was terrible.

 

[Grayhead]

Wow, that left an impression on you didn't it.....

Maybe

 

[NoleSoup4U]

This is the only "spanking" I do.

 

[HookUNC75]

I did get spanked as a youngster. Not a lot though. The worst one I can remember was when I was about 7 or 8 years old. I had overheard my maternal grandmother say sh!t. I thought it was so cool I went next door to the neighbor's and bragged about it to the whole family there. Well my sister went back home and told my mother on me and I got my bottom beat thoroughly.

As far as my two sons, all I had to do with the older one was show the belt and he would be terrified into straightening out. I only had to do that a couple of times with him. Never had to spank him to get results.

The younger son was completely the opposite. He feared nothing and tried my patience to see how far he could go with bad behavior. So I started out spanking him, but it had the opposite affect on him. The more I spanked, the madder and oppositional he would get. He would never cry. It got to the point where I feared that I might injure the child if I kept on spanking harder and harder to achieve results. So I changed my approach and started positively rewarding him with compliments and encouragement for his good behavior. When he did misbehave, I just let him know that his choices were bad and I let it go. He apparently was just trying to piss me off with the bad behavior and when it didn't produce the reaction he wanted, the bad behavior curtailed. It must have worked because he has grown to be one of the most honest and respectful individuals you could ask him to be. In fact both of my sons are.

We didn't have girls so I'm sure that would be a whole other can of worms.

 

[bleeduncblue]

Yes and yes. But it's done with complete calm (on my part), thorough explanation and follow up discussion. 100% believer.

 

[coryfly]

My parents did when I was young. I have no issues with people parenting how they wish it if it is not done in anger. I don't do it because I have a step-son and daughter and wouldn't either for different reasons.

 

[strummingram]

I can't think of a time when I wasn't whipped "in anger."

I'm not sure it made a difference because I never had the alternative to measure it against. I was never wondering "why am I getting a whipping?" I knew full well what
I'd done!

 

[notashelbyfan]

Yes and yes.

Stuff I can remember getting hit with....

Belt
Hickory
Flip flop
Drop cord
Cloths hanger (metal and plastic)
News paper
Wooden spoon

And I deserved every single one of them!

 

[Grayhead]

It's amazing how the vast majority of poasters were spanked and carried on with their children. Given the tone of this board on most days, I would have assumed most would have a problem with spanking.

 

[strummingram]

It's amazing how the vast majority of poasters were spanked and carried on with their children. Given the tone of this board on most days, I would have assumed most would have a problem with spanking.

People mimic the behavior they're taught or shown. I'd say that's what usually happens. It's probably less common for people to break a tradition.

 

[Hark_The_Sound_2010]

1. I got rocked by my dad on several occasions.
2. I will never hit my kids (probably as a result of #1)
3. I would never tell anyone they shouldn't raise their own children however they see fit

 

[gteeitup]

don’t spank was spanked

looking back, being restricted from things or activities was such a better deterrent for me and works well in our house.

 

[gteeitup]

i must say, anyone else ever feel uncomfortable when a parent swears by how effective it is?

i don’t question parenting skills of anyone, but seeing it in public or being told it’s the only way the discipline disturbs me...i’m always thinking, maybe it’s not working because you continue to have to spank?

 

[Raising Heel]

Yes, I spank my monkey.

Yes, I got spanked as a kid. There was never a time I didn't deserve it, though.

One of the worst instances was when my mom caught me and my older brother shooting BB guns. She had explicitly told us not to. Her mother, who was very religious, happened to be visiting at the time. My brother had to sit with our grandmother at one end of the house while my mom gave him a long lecture about "honoring thy father and thy mother" as in the ten commandments. I was in the living room at the other end of the house, and she came in and spanked me so hard with a bread paddle that the paddle split in half. The paddle looked like the picture below, but with only two hearts. It left heart-shaped marks on my ass for a week.