Sadly, most southerners today seem incapable of understanding that the South waged and then lost a war that nearly destroyed the United States. The South lost decisively. The rebel cause was unjust, immoral and treasonous. The economic justification was unseemly. There is no part of the Confederate cause of which to be proud. There is no moral high ground here. There is no flag to fly with pride. Secession, treason, slavery, bigotry, racism - these are not what we wish to memorialize and romanticize with a symbol of hatred waving obstinately over a statehouse.
I say we because I too am southern born, southern bred and when I die.......having spent considerable time in NYC and Atlanta I can honestly say when it comes to the Tar Heel state, there is no place like home. But having said that, I too remember growing up in a relatively rural area and a lot of our encounters with someone wearing a rebel flag on their person or displayed on their vehicle didn't go well - but I digress.
The South does not hold on to the war as if they never actually lost and as if their cause was just. It appears Appomattox was a setback only. The war still is being waged. And that is unfortunate.