This non binary stuff

[carolinablue34]

So I have no issue with the concept of being transgender. Hell, I don’t even care if you want to identify as the opposite gender every now and then.

But the ‘non-binary’ people are f**king crazy. To be ‘Nothing’ when one is clearly biologically male or female is insane. And the girl I’m dating wants me to stop calling her my ‘girlfriend’. No she or her either. Instead, I must refer to her as ‘They’ or ‘them’ and as my ‘date mate’, ‘significant other’ or ‘partner’.

I’m torn you guys. I really like this girl. She makes me happy, but for the life of me I cannot wrap my head around this shit. To call her ‘they’ when she is so clearly a damn woman, royally pisses me off. And it saddens me because I might have to sacrifice my relationship because of it.

Advice, fellas?

 

[toophly1124]

Oh shit.

 

[BillyL]

If it was me, it would be time for a new 'girlfriend' . .

 

[TarHeelMark]

So...... you're really, REALLY sure?

 

[carolinablue34]

Oh shit.

Yeah, “oh shit” is right.

So...... you're really, REALLY sure?

She’s wonderful in every way and then she just dropped this on me randomly.

 

[tarheel0910]

I just say carbon based lifeform so I don't offend anyone. Well, it offends non carbon based lifeforms but they can't talk so they can go to hell.

 

[gunslingerdick]

Not sure if serious.

 

[carolinablue34]

Not sure if serious.

I wish I wasn't.

 

[Hark_The_Sound_2010]

What other weird, offputting characteristics does she have?

 

[carolinablue34]

What other weird, offputting characteristics does she have?

Other than that, nothing.

 

[tarheel0910]

Two things need to be considered. Does she give good head and does she give it often? If the answer is yes call her whatever she wants to be called. If the answer is no, kick that bitch to the curb.

 

[TarHeelNation11]

Two things need to be considered. Does she give good head and does she give it often? If the answer is yes call her whatever she wants to be called. If the answer is no, kick that bitch to the curb.

Pretty much this.

Or, you know, just don't live in the North.

ETA: we're gonna need to see pics to make a final determination.

 

[coryfly]

I know what the POTUS would tell you to do.

I would just focus on my golf game or something if I were you. I don't even know what you are talking about though.

 

[carolinablue34]

Two things need to be considered. Does she give good head and does she give it often? If the answer is yes call her whatever she wants to be called. If the answer is no, kick that bitch to the curb.

She gives an amazing blowjob.

 

[TarHeelNation11]

I know what the POTUS would tell you to do.

Regardless of year, why would ask the POTUS for dating advice?

I don't even know what you are talking about though.

Honestly I don't know either. And I'm glad I don't.

 

[TarHeelNation11]

She gives an amazing blowjob.

"You're such a naughty non-gendered life-form. Do you like going down on your non-gender-identified parent in this totally consensual act that I have not forced on you in any way because I value your personhood? DO YOU?!"

-- carolinablue34, probably.

 

[TarHeelNation11]

Gotdang, dating in the South is so much simpler. The most egregious problem I have with my current squeeze is she's more of a Taco Bell chick and I'm more of a Wendy's guy.

 

[carolinablue34]

Gotdang, dating in the South is so much simpler. The most egregious problem I have with my current squeeze is she's more of a Taco Bell chick and I'm more of a Wendy's guy.

You sure this is a north vs. south thing? haha

 

[coryfly]

Does she have three nipples?

 

[uncboy10]

Expecting someone to refer to you as "they" is stupid. They is a plural pronoun.

 

[TarHeelNation11]

You sure this is a north vs. south thing? haha

Could just be a you thing. *shrugs*

 

[carolinablue34]

Expecting someone to refer to you as "they" is stupid. They is a plural pronoun.

I literally thought the exact same thing when she first told me.

 

[carolinablue34]

Could just be a you thing. *shrugs*

That would suck on my part. This chick has an amazing rack.

 

[TarHeelNation11]

That would suck on my part. This chick has an amazing rack.

So be a man and put her in her place. Tell her you'll do everything you can to break that glass ceiling. But in the meantime, it's "she" and "girlfriend" and it's the three S's from her: Sucking, sex, and sandwiches.

Or..... and hear me out here, find a chick who isn't fukked in the head. Gimme an 8 who's not annoying and likes sports over a 10 who annoys tf out of me any day.

 

[carolinablue34]

So be a man and put her in her place. Tell her you'll do everything you can to break that glass ceiling. But in the meantime, it's "she" and "girlfriend" and it's the three S's from her: Sucking, sex, and sandwiches.

Or..... and hear me out here, find a chick who isn't fukked in the head. Gimme an 8 who's not annoying and likes sports over a 10 who annoys tf out of me any day.

I ain't about that man. I'll be honest with her about how I feel about it, but I'm not going to pull the "I'm the man and what I say goes" card on her.

 

[TarHeelNation11]

I ain't about that man. I'll be honest with her about how I feel about it, but I'm not going to pull the "I'm the man and what I say goes" card on her.

I could tell that by your hair cut (and I use this term loosely).

 

[TarHeelNation11]

Lol, okay, obviously I'm just fukking witchoo. In all seriousness, I'm not sure what the solution is here. Perhaps just an honest dialogue concerning her and your varying viewpoint on things. Hopefully that will either help bridge some gaps or help convince you once and for all that she's too crazy for you to be with.

Methinks if you're honest with yourself here and think about things, you'll realize you can probably never find long-term happiness with a girl that is that different from you in terms of how you see the world. Like, imagine taking this girl home to your sweet mom, your mom goes "Carolinablue34, is this her?! Is this the girl you've told us so much about!!!" and your girl goes "uhmmmmmm, actually, I do not identify by EITHER gender..."

You'd be les miserables, fam.

 

[nctransplant]

I'm sure strum can solve this problem.

 

[Grayhead]

Honestly, if it was at you this much, best let her go. I've seen one person who made that decision to go neutral, or completely identify with their gender. To me, they look weird.
If she progresses with this and starts the middle of the road look, are you going to be fine walking in a store with someone who almost looks like a man?

But most of all, talk to her. Let her know what you think of it. If this is a sacrifice you are willing to make, then go for it. If the relation progresses, and children are involved, will this be a conflict with how you want your kids raised? Your opinion matters just as much as hers

 

[gunslingerdick]

"You're such a naughty non-gendered life-form. Do you like going down on your non-gender-identified parent in this totally consensual act that I have not forced on you in any way because I value your personhood? DO YOU?!"

-- carolinablue34, probably.

 

[strummingram]

I'm sure strum can solve this problem.

I've never even heard of someone doing this before. I didn't know it was even a thing. If it makes cblue uncomfortable to the point of asking our advice, I don't see wedding bells in their future. I think her effort and objective is kinda cool though.

 

[tarheel0910]

Expecting someone to refer to you as "they" is stupid. They is a plural pronoun.

The AP stylebook disagrees.

I've never even heard of someone doing this before. I didn't know it was even a thing.

First time I heard about it was when a carbon based life form was shot and killed on the GA Tech campus. That carbon based life form identified as they.

 

[toophly1124]

Idiocracy man. The movie. Watch it. Exactly what this world is becoming.

 

[gunslingerdick]

Idiocracy man. The movie. Watch it. Exactly what this world is becoming.

I completely agree. We've been trending that way for several years. But what can you do? I'll just sit back with a tall glass of Brawndo (the thirst mutilator!) and watch an episode of Ow, My Balls.

*this message is brought to you by Carl's Jr.

 

[nctransplant]

All this stuff is a fad. These young people latch on to something so easily.

 

[toophly1124]

I completely agree. We've been trending that way for several years. But what can you do? I'll just sit back with a tall glass of Brawndo (the thirst mutilator!) and watch an episode of Ow, My Balls.

*this message is brought to you by Carl's Jr.

Hahaha love the references

 

[strummingram]

All this stuff is a fad. These young people latch on to something so easily.

Like Rock and Roll... it won't be much longer.


By the way, this is nothing like idiocracy. The binary identifications of a lot of things have served their purpose and reaching the end of their usefulness. One thing that never changes is that change is always occurring.

 

[toophly1124]

The binary identifications of a lot of things have served their purpose and reaching the end of their usefulness.

Hahaha. You’re so funny Strum.

 

[nctransplant]

Hahaha. You’re so funny Strum.

I no longer think strum is chick. I think he's Bill Walton.

 

[toophly1124]

I no longer think strum is chick. I think he's Bill Walton.

Hahahaha that’s about as spot on as it gets.