Be nice and still be respected yes, you can not be their buddy and command the needed respect. That is a concern I have with Hubert, has he crossed the line to being more their friend than their coach. Both Dean as well as Roy presented more of a fatherly figure to their players. You know, a father loves you, a father wants what is best for you, but a father will command a level of respect that is the key.
Not suggesting the players overtly disrespect Hubert, in fact I believe any of our players would be quick to tell you how much they respect Hubert. But to come out not totally ready to play is in it's self an act of disrespect, I don't think the players realize this. Of course my generation did a really poor job of teaching respect to our kids and we are a generation removed from that now.