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I am really curious to get other guy's opinions on this. I met this awesome guy in Clemson over the weekend and we hit it off really well and you know that excitement you get when you first meet someone you just click with.... we definitely had it and cannot seem to stop thinking about it, talked for HOURS.... but here is my thing- He is only 30 years old and I am 51.

So my question for you fellas is, IF you were single (or if you are) how would you feel about seeing someone that much older than you? Of course he seems fine with it but it does kind of bother me even though when I spent time with him this weekend I did not feel the age difference but I think about IF things went further, would that be an issue in 5 years or whatever? I really don't think it will go that far BUT I hate to get involved other than friends at this point in my life for something that will obviously not be a life long thing.

I am okay with just having fun one day at a time and keeping things very open, just live in the NOW, but just wondering how a man would feel once he got older, like say in HIS 50's dating a 60-something year old. I have to admit, I would not look for anyone in their 60's now at 51, so I wonder if that would be the case for a guy in years to come?

I hope you all had a great weekend! I sure did! hehe
 
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chick_bleeds_carolina_blue said:
I am really curious to get other guy's opinions on this. I met this awesome guy in Clemson over the weekend and we hit it off really well and you know that excitement you get when you first meet someone you just click with.... we definitely had it and cannot seem to stop thinking about it, talked for HOURS.... but here is my thing- He is only 30 years old and I am 51.

So my question for you fellas is, IF you were single (or if you are) how would you feel about seeing someone that much older than you? Of course he seems fine with it but it does kind of bother me even though when I spent time with him this weekend I did not feel the age difference but I think about IF things went further, would that be an issue in 5 years or whatever? I really don't think it will go that far BUT I hate to get involved other than friends at this point in my life for something that will obviously not be a life long thing.

I am okay with just having fun one day at a time and keeping things very open, just live in the NOW, but just wondering how a man would feel once he got older, like say in HIS 50's dating a 60-something year old. I have to admit, I would not look for anyone in their 60's now at 51, so I wonder if that would be the case for a guy in years to come?

I hope you all had a great weekend! I sure did! hehe
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My wife is quite a bit older than me. Been married ten years. Like 71 said, just let it play out and see what happens.
 
If you guys are happy, then who cares. If it develops into something serious, make sure you discuss the idea that you were out of highschool before he was even born. Also let him know that you cannot be put on that special list due to his age now. If he's cool with all that, then go for it
 
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Grayhead said:
If you guys are happy, then who cares. If it develops into something serious, make sure you discuss the idea that you were out of highschool before he was even born. Also let him know that you cannot be put on that special list due to his age now. If he's cool with all that, then go for it
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Special list???? Blonde moment I guess lol
 
chick_bleeds_carolina_blue said:
I am really curious to get other guy's opinions on this. I met this awesome guy in Clemson over the weekend and we hit it off really well and you know that excitement you get when you first meet someone you just click with.... we definitely had it and cannot seem to stop thinking about it, talked for HOURS.... but here is my thing- He is only 30 years old and I am 51.

So my question for you fellas is, IF you were single (or if you are) how would you feel about seeing someone that much older than you? Of course he seems fine with it but it does kind of bother me even though when I spent time with him this weekend I did not feel the age difference but I think about IF things went further, would that be an issue in 5 years or whatever? I really don't think it will go that far BUT I hate to get involved other than friends at this point in my life for something that will obviously not be a life long thing.

I am okay with just having fun one day at a time and keeping things very open, just live in the NOW, but just wondering how a man would feel once he got older, like say in HIS 50's dating a 60-something year old. I have to admit, I would not look for anyone in their 60's now at 51, so I wonder if that would be the case for a guy in years to come?

I hope you all had a great weekend! I sure did! hehe
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Blue2010 said:
Strum, were you in Clemson over the weekend? We need to talk, buddy.
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I stopped being in my 30's about 8 years ago.

I also wasn't in Clemson over the weekend .

Age difference can be a problem... if you make it one. Maybe this will help: THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS "TIME." That's a real whopper of an illusion that humans literally made-up. Everything that has ever happened is happening right now. There is movement, but not time.
 
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strummingram said:
I stopped being in my 30's about 8 years ago.

I also wasn't in Clemson over the weekend .

Age difference can be a problem... if you make it one. Maybe this will help: THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS "TIME." That's a real whopper of an illusion that humans literally made-up. Everything that has ever happened is happening right now. There is movement, but not time.
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OK then that is what I am going to tell the IRS when I don't send my taxes in on time. Time might be an illusion , but age sure as hell ain't.
 
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chick_bleeds_carolina_blue said:
I am really curious to get other guy's opinions on this. I met this awesome guy in Clemson over the weekend and we hit it off really well and you know that excitement you get when you first meet someone you just click with.... we definitely had it and cannot seem to stop thinking about it, talked for HOURS.... but here is my thing- He is only 30 years old and I am 51.

So my question for you fellas is, IF you were single (or if you are) how would you feel about seeing someone that much older than you? Of course he seems fine with it but it does kind of bother me even though when I spent time with him this weekend I did not feel the age difference but I think about IF things went further, would that be an issue in 5 years or whatever? I really don't think it will go that far BUT I hate to get involved other than friends at this point in my life for something that will obviously not be a life long thing.

I am okay with just having fun one day at a time and keeping things very open, just live in the NOW, but just wondering how a man would feel once he got older, like say in HIS 50's dating a 60-something year old. I have to admit, I would not look for anyone in their 60's now at 51, so I wonder if that would be the case for a guy in years to come?

I hope you all had a great weekend! I sure did! hehe
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he obviously has a "mommy" complex. His name isn't Oedipus or a variation of , is it?
 
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strummingram said:
I stopped being in my 30's about 8 years ago.

I also wasn't in Clemson over the weekend .

Age difference can be a problem... if you make it one. Maybe this will help: THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS "TIME." That's a real whopper of an illusion that humans literally made-up. Everything that has ever happened is happening right now. There is movement, but not time.
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Good, since there is no such thing as time, I want my 30's back.... I am 33 forever now! HAHA I had NO sex then because of my kids so I am doing it over with a hottie!~ LOL
 
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he obviously has a "mommy" complex. His name isn't Oedipus or a variation of , is it?
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sure, whatever you say chief...... there is no way a young man could be attracted to an older, youthful woman...haha.... I have only ever dated younger guys except for one and he was just a couple of years older than I am. I've been a cougar a long time. I gave it all up four years ago though.... this one caught me by surprise though.
 
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OK then that is what I am going to tell the IRS when I don't send my taxes in on time. Time might be an illusion , but age sure as hell ain't.
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Now, that's a good point. "Age" is more of a reality. But, that can be characterized in other ways. Maturity, or awareness of yourself and the universe, can happen anytime. In fact, I think one of the biggest factors in our progress as a species has been people having children when they themselves are still children. It is a challenge trying to teach when you haven't learned yourself!

It's interesting to me how, not very long ago at all, women were married at age 13 or 14 to men who were in their 30's easily.
 
strummingram said:
Now, that's a good point. "Age" is more of a reality. But, that can be characterized in other ways. Maturity, or awareness of yourself and the universe, can happen anytime. In fact, I think one of the biggest factors in our progress as a species has been people having children when they themselves are still children. It is a challenge trying to teach when you haven't learned yourself!

It's interesting to me how, not very long ago at all, women were married at age 13 or 14 to men who were in their 30's easily.
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That is true but can you imagine being a 30 year old married to a 13 year old now???? omg If you have never had teenagers......hmmm it's an adventure, that's all I can say!

I know personally that while I have maintained my base personality from when I was younger, my tolerance and things that interest me or that I will actually go out and do have changed drastically over the years so basically, most people who do marry young end up going separate ways because you grow into your true self and you sometimes find you are not compatible anymore.

Even though I have a LOT in common with this guy I met over the weekend, I have no doubt that there are some major differences because of our ages, so therefore, I am not putting a lot of thought into it. It will probably just be a new buddy to spend time with, which is really all I want. I have friends but I don't see them often, so I think this one will be one that will hang out with me and do stuff with me.... that is all I want anyway....not looking to be married anyway. It's not like I have a bunch of free time, as it is LOL
 
chick_bleeds_carolina_blue said:
I am really curious to get other guy's opinions on this. I met this awesome guy in Clemson over the weekend and we hit it off really well and you know that excitement you get when you first meet someone you just click with.... we definitely had it and cannot seem to stop thinking about it, talked for HOURS.... but here is my thing- He is only 30 years old and I am 51.

So my question for you fellas is, IF you were single (or if you are) how would you feel about seeing someone that much older than you? Of course he seems fine with it but it does kind of bother me even though when I spent time with him this weekend I did not feel the age difference but I think about IF things went further, would that be an issue in 5 years or whatever? I really don't think it will go that far BUT I hate to get involved other than friends at this point in my life for something that will obviously not be a life long thing.

I am okay with just having fun one day at a time and keeping things very open, just live in the NOW, but just wondering how a man would feel once he got older, like say in HIS 50's dating a 60-something year old. I have to admit, I would not look for anyone in their 60's now at 51, so I wonder if that would be the case for a guy in years to come?

I hope you all had a great weekend! I sure did! hehe
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LOL, well, to me that would be a GREAT thing for you to talk over with him AFTER sex ! If he freaks and runs then ya know, it he doesn't repeat what occurred before the discussion!

Seriously, why do women do this, if you want to get with the guy get with him, why the need to treat it as if it were long term employment? Enjoy the moments and see how many enjoyable moments you can string together and as time goes by the problem may not even exist.
 
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DSouthr said:
LOL, well, to me that would be a GREAT thing for you to talk over with him AFTER sex ! If he freaks and runs then ya know, it he doesn't repeat what occurred before the discussion!

Seriously, why do women do this, if you want to get with the guy get with him, why the need to treat it as if it were long term employment? Enjoy the moments and see how many enjoyable moments you can string together and as time goes by the problem may not even exist.
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Does this qualify as your shortest post to date? ;)
 
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I've noticed, over the years, that a lot more women seem to do the "I have a niece that age" sort of comparison. They seem to be compelled to make a direct comparison- in age- to someone else. When I was 36, I was living with a 18-year-old. I never once thought "She's the same age as my cousin! Who was a baby when I graduated high school!" I just thought of that, right now, in order to share it here. If anything, it was interesting how her father was only a year older than me and looked 20 years older.

I guess Mrs. Robinson and The Graduate had a real impact on culture. My step-bother is 59 and his wife is in her late 70's. Who cares?
 
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