What does NIL stand for?
I find several things interesting about the current turn of this discussion:
1. Our "love" of UNC sure seems shallow if all it takes is someone taking a stance I disagree with to tarnish it!
2. Our "love" of UNC sure seems rooted in my own self-worth if I get angry when they don't do as I say!
3. Our definition of "Family" sure seems lacking if it removes the idea that Family members have free will! (I wonder if every member of our families behaves as we would like???)
4. The condescension it takes to assume one knows what the entire BLM movement believes in is titanic and the same idea as trying to tell other people: who they should listen to, have as heroes, what to call themselves, how to speak, where to live, and what percentage of a human they get to be!
I don't know if I am considered part of the BLM movement or not, but I do know that I value all life. I fight hard to resist my urge to paint groups of people with a broad brush, but I do fall short at times. I fight against a lifetime of evidence when I am faced daily with systemic and individual racism. I am proud that my son doesn't understand when my wife and I give each other the look when we are the last served in a restaurant or passed over for seating or followed by a store detective! I am afraid for him because his belief in the goodness of people might just get him killed during a routine traffic stop but I resist the urge to explain why he needs the speech about how to act during that stop! He came to me recently and said, "I'm sorry pops, I just always thought you guys were way too sensitive!"
Change is often uncomfortable and even painful, but it sure seems unavoidable....this time!
We are swiftly learning that some have some not too deeply buried vestiges of a bygone era and are having trouble articulating why they are angry. I posit that the difficulty stems from the knowledge that the real reason for the anger is something they may not be ready to except about themselves. Love will eventually fix it so fight the misplaced anger and, even if one can never release it ourselves, teach your children to: never judge lest you be judged AND love your neighbors as you would yourself! Teach them to get to know someone before they decide how to interact. Trust me, many people are deserving of anger (often including me), but far more people deserve love!