Well I appreciate your willingness to defend me from a pure civil liberties standpoint, which I would reciprocate.
I'm merely making a distinction between honoring the common soldier and the misguided cause they fought for. For example, the SS does not and should never be celebrated. But Wermacht soldiers, despite fighting for an objectively evil force, are a different story. I think it's possible to commemorate an event and life lost without endorsing the government they fought for. But you don't see statues of Hitler, Goebbels, and Himmler across Germany do you? Granted, the scale of their crimes outweighs that of Lee, Jackson, and Stuart.
But imagine if modern Germany and its government or at least part of it, still operated under the premise the Nazis did nothing wrong and a huge portion of their population/Parliament became apologists for it? I do not believe there is any reason to commemorate upper echelon Confederate leaders and generals.
The statues aren't about you or about me wanting to one up you. It's about what they represent and what they represented to the people who put them up. What they were trying to accomplish, which was racial segregation and a steadfast commitment to ensuring blacks would never be their social or political equals. The Confederacy believed in these principles.
It's different than Washington, Jefferson, or Madison. They built up this nation. We owe our existence to them. The South tried to destroy it. To me, that's the key difference. Take it for what you will.